1 . “Do you have a Durable Power of Attorney (POA)?”

The Durable Power of Attorney is considered one the most important personal legal documents for any older adult to have. Along with a healthcare proxy, it will give whomever your parent designates —whether it be you, one of your siblings, or someone else — the power to make financial and legal decisions (or, in the case of a healthcare proxy, to make medical decisions) if your parent is incapacitated. Without a Durable Power of Attorney in place, you’ll have to go to court to get appointed as your parent’s guardian. That’s the last thing you’ll want to have to think about in a time of crisis, and it’s a notoriously complicated and messy legal process. With a durable Power of Attorney and healthcare proxy in place, you can seamlessly make decisions and access accounts on your parent’s behalf without getting the courts involved.

2. “Have you updated your will, insurance, and retirement account information recently?”

Many people never take another look at their insurance policies or investment account beneficiary designations after they sign the initial papers, but both should be reviewed every year. Beneficiary designations — who will receive the proceeds from an account if the policy or account holder dies — can be affected by any change in family circumstance, like the birth of a new child, a death, or a divorce. A yearly financial and insurance review also provides a good moment for your parent to review their asset allocation and evaluate whether they have enough or too much life insurance (if the children are grown and the spouse has other funds on which to live if there is a death, for example, your parent could think about cutting back on the amount of life insurance they carry to save money on annual premiums).

3. “Do you have plans or insurance in place to pay for long-term care if it’s needed?

Even if your parent is in good health today, they’ll likely need some type of long-term care eventually —and cost can be substantial. Costs for nursing home care can range from $8,000 – $10,000 a month depending on the state you reside in. Typically, neither health insurance or Medicare cover any of these expenses, so your parent should have some type of plan in place to pay for such care should it be needed. Long-term care insurance is a good option and can be added to existing life insurance policies, possibly at a discounted rate. Medicaid also covers some nursing home costs, but your parent should consult an elder law attorney now to find out if they qualify for Medicaid. If not, the attorney may advise spending down assets — literally. He or she can advise you about the methodology of spending down without gifting or transferring assets until your parent meets the strict income requirements necessary to qualify for Medicaid. Without a plan in place to pay for long-term care, you and your siblings will be on the hook to pick up the cost unless your parent has very deep pockets. Another excellent resource to discuss the whole access to Medicaid is your county’s Aging & Disability Resource Center (ADRC). They have counselors on staff that help guide you through the process as well.

4. “Who’s advising you?”

Although most adults are fiercely private about their finances and want to maintain their independence, it’s important in case of an emergency that you know how to contact your parent’s attorney, financial advisor, accountant, and insurance agent. At the same time, as your parent ages, you can keep an eye on whether their financial and legal advisors are scrupulous, objective, and well-versed in elder financial issues, with no vested interest in selling specific products. Getting the details on exactly who is advising your parent is a good way to protect him them from scams as well as to ensure they have funds in case of an emergency.

5. “Where is all this stuff?”

If your parent has a stroke or heart attack, the last thing you’re going to want to worry about is what his/her social security number is, what health insurance is in place, or whether the mortgage has been paid. That’s why it’s important to sit down before a crisis hits and find out what kind of bill-paying system is in place, the status of any insurance, and where all the important papers are kept. Although some parents may balk at sharing this kind of personal information, you should provide reassurance that you don’t have to see any private papers now — you just need to know where they are to ensure financial well-being in the event they are not able to take care of themselves.